Several times in the course of the day, I’ll reach over to my wedding ring and feel it, twist it, and think about who it represents. When we were first married, a waiter commented on how shiny our rings were. The more I thought about his comment, the more I thought about the years to come, and the dullness seen on my grandparent’s and parent’s rings. My grandfather’s ring was a thin ring of gold that had long lost its luster, but it never misplaced his ring finger and symbolized over 60-plus years of marriage. It made me want to strive to achieve dullness in our lives as a couple, also.
The other day I felt a small nick in the outer band. At first, I was a little disheartened. Something that I treasure, something that I will never give up had a defect on it. Then I thought about it for a few more seconds. That nick represented time—hard times, good times, times that can’t be repeated and times that are yet to be. Soon, that defect became a badge of honor and accomplishment. In fact, I find myself looking for it whenever I feel my ring now.
Then I thought about it some more. What else is considered extremely precious and is flawed; becoming more flawed with the progression of time. We are. God has created perfect imperfections when He created mankind. We all have nicks, faults, and things that make us unlovable—maybe even despised by human standards. But God looks at us with eyes of love and Fatherly pride. There is nothing He wouldn’t do for His children. He even says so in Psalms, the Gospels, and the Epistles. So when you do or say something that you would consider unforgivable, go to God with it and confess it. He loves us so much and has given more than we can ever imagine (the death and resurrection of Jesus), that He will readily forgive us. Our job is to know and remember how much He loves us and try our best to not repeat those things of which we have confessed. This is one of the ways we can show God how much we love Him. Let yourself become dull; there’s no greater display of love than longevity.
